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Stressing yourself out of the moment

Maybe you can relate… Have you ever been somewhere on vacation but you can’t really remember much of anything? Details are foggy and remembrances are vague, but you were not under the influence of alcohol or anything other than stress.  Well, I’ve been there and frankly I don’t recommend it. If you read to the end, I’ll offer a few suggestions on how to vacation with less stress. But first, the story and why this topic came up.

I was walking around a small rural cemetery just this past weekend. I was looking for my mother’s headstone and initially I couldn’t find it. That was frustrating, because of course, I had stood at that very gravesite. I tried to think back, but the day she was buried was a complete blur. I was present, I know that, but stress had taken my mind out of the equation, somewhere less painful, I fathom. I can genuinely remember very little about that day, with clarity except for my uncle making a smart remark about my choice of footwear, my Grandmother playing the piano at the reception hall, the candle blowing out at the alter and feeling my mom’s presence when I hugged my great aunt. But where the gravesite was, in the small rural cemetery, I lacked any remembrances.

I sometimes feel this way, overwhelmed with stress, when I travel. Maybe you do too? There is so much planning and pressure and money riding on having a great trip, doing everything on your list and capturing every moment with a photo that it’s easy to lose sight of what’s going on in the moment. Sometimes there’s so much damn pressure that you just mentally check out.

So, how do we fix this and be more PRESENT and CAPABLE in the moment and able to enjoy our hard earned vacations more?  I definitely don’t have all the answers, but I can make a few suggestions. I invite your comments and suggestions as well. Tell me what works for you.

  1. Delegate. Maybe one of your kids could be the official trip photographer? Take something off your responsibility list, anything.
  2. Stop making lists and “must-do” plans just because some stranger on an Internet forum said “this is the BEST restaurant in Alabama and you’ll never know BBQ if you don’t eat here!”
  3. Schedule free time. Yes, actually. Plan an afternoon or even a day of nothing. Free time where you can follow your whims and just be in the moment. Or even sleep in and get the rest your body and brain craves.
  4. Sit and eat and talk to your companions. No phones allowed at the table.
  5. Make tangible connections. That can be with a person, place or thing. Just make sure to pause long enough so that you can genuinely connect.
  6. Remember that things don’t have to be perfect, to be perfectly wonderful!

Don’t do bad things!

Travel should be safe, happy and enrich your life. Don’t mess that up for yourself, or others.   Like these two:  Tourists facing jail time for graffiti

I’ll tell you a personal story, because I think it’s kind of sweet. When my son was almost 4 we were watching the Brandon Wheat Kings play and his favourite hockey player (Mark Stone) was sent to the penalty box. This was upsetting for my son. He absolutely hated seeing Mark in “hockey jail.” Later that night Calder (my son) got the chance to tell Mark exactly how he felt.

It was skate with the player night, and during the post-game event, Calder had Mark’s full attention. Mark, (all 6 foot 6 of him, on skates) was down on his knee to listen to Calder.

“Don’t do bad things!” Calder said. “Don’t do bad things.”  he repeated over and over. “No goals in hockey jail.” Which we as parents, interpreted for Mark … “you can’t score goals while sitting in the penalty box.”  Mark assured Calder that he understood the message “don’t do bad things” he repeated over and over. “Don’t do bad things.”  Satisfied that he had been heard, Calder was ready to skate. He and his hockey idol skated around. At the end of the the event Mark said goodbye to the little guy and assured him that he would “not  do bad things” and try his best to stay out of the penalty box. It was a nice moment. Very memorable.

So, that’s pretty much all I’m going to say, because the message certainly does apply to travel.  “Don’t do bad things.”  But honestly, I shouldn’t have to say this. It’s common sense.

1) Jail time isn’t a joke. Jail time isn’t two minutes in the penalty box.

2) Respect the culture and customs of the country you are in. You are a guest. Be on your best behaviour. Obey the laws.

3) If you have a conviction at home. Even if YOU THINK it’s minor, it could very well prevent you from getting a tourist visa, or being allowed entry into a foreign country. Assault, drug possession, DUI (Driving under the influence) are all potential barriers to you being free to travel. So before you buy a plane ticket, check with the embassy. Do your homework.

And most of all, the bottom line is that travel is a privilege. “Don’t do bad things!”

5 Star Mazatlan $675 plus tax

Hey Winnipeggers, here’s a bargain you can share with your friends. I know you like a deal!

Here’s a Black Friday deal from SellOffVacations.com. You leave Friday December 16th, and return on the 23rd, in plenty of time to hang the stockings for Santa.

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A 5 star vacation, for a family of four, under $1000 per person.

Stay tuned all week, for more Black Friday travel deals.  If you like the deals, please share them with friends.

Blogs I’m reading

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Looking for a fresh read? Here’s the fabulous 5 that are open on my desktop right now!

  1. Eatlivetraveldrink.com
    You’ll love Nicki’s Instagram too @eatlivetraveldrink
    Click on this link to see her recent post on Ireland.
  2. 2girlstrippin.com
    Full of sass… grab a seat in their sidecar and buckle up for adventure!
  3. Choosetravelonline.com
    They’ve got 5 reasons to convince you to take on a travel adventure in your gap year.
  4. Whereisnoodles.com
    Well written and always fresh! You could click here to read her tips on travelling to Amsterdam.
  5. Thethirstytourist.com
    A fellow Canadian, Carolynne has been there, and done that, coast to coast. Have you been to Newfoundland? She has. Here’s Hunting for Icebergs.

 

Bonus blog for flair and style: 

Dianaelizabethblog.com

I love her fresh, fabulous style and she has simple, 3 step advice for looking great in your travel photos.

Got a blog we should check out? Do post it in the comments.

Ok, Arizona, you got me.

 

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The Arizona Diamondbacks weren’t “our team” when we arrived, but I believe they are now. They won us over in back to back games.

First we saw them play the San Francisco Giants, in a Sunday afternoon game. We sat in the first row of the upper deck. (MVP Section 321). The view was fantastic and I would definitely recommend them for the best of the cheap seats.

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View from section 321

We took a stroll around the stadium to see where we might like to sit for the next game. What did we discover? There probably isn’t a bad seat in the house. Anywhere on the lower level (home run bleacher seats included) would have a pretty good view of the action.

We also spied the very unique and completely awesome Pet Smart patio. On Sunday game days, people are welcome to attend with their dogs. Yes, your dog can go to a baseball game! How very cool! There was also an adoption pen that on Sundays, showcased local dogs up for adoption. This Pet Smart patio zone had its own entrance an a park-a-potty section for the dogs.

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Right next to the Pet Smart section was Mountainside Fitness. It was an actual gym. You could attend, ride the bike or run on the treadmill AND watch the game action. Again, very cool. Who are these innovators with these great ideas? I’d like to shake their hands.

Next up on our tour was a view of the pool section. Yup, an actual pool and patio that you could rent out for your corporate or party events. Wouldn’t that be something? Bathing suits and baseballs. It was in the home run area, and I could definitely see a ball getting hit into the pool.

For our second game, a night game against the NY Yankees, my son chose the seats, He wanted to sit as close to the field as possible, in foul ball territory, and on an aisle. Thanks to Stubhub.com and a game-day purchase, that was an affordable and possible request.

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We sat just beyond the Diamondbacks’ dugout on the 3rd base side and 6 rows up from the field. At various times during the pre-game, Diamondback players stopped by the fence to sign autographs. My son was lucky enough to catch a ball during batting practice and then have it signed by #27, Brandon Drury.

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We had a great time. A blast. We’re already talking about when we can go back. Seems to me, like we’ve got ourselves a baseball team. Go Dbacks!

We got to see Goldschmidt hit a homerun at his first at bat of the night.
We got to see Goldschmidt hit a homerun at his first at bat of the night.

Arizona Diamondbacks Baseball

SpringHill Suites Downtown Phoenix

 

Get your best rates at this or any Marriott Hotel.